Шилдэг гүйцэтгэл үзүүлдэг хүмүүс нөхцөл байдлыг хэрхэн хүлээж авч, юуг хяналтандаа байлгахаа мэддэг сэтгэлгээгээрээ бусдаас ялгардаг.
Эрик Поттерат, Алан Игл нарын “Learned Excellence” номонд дурдсанаар, амжилтад хүрэх нь өөрийн зан төлөв, үнэ цэнэ, юу юуг чухалчилдаг болохоо гүн гүнзгий таньж мэдэхээс эхэлдэг. Бусдын бодлоос илүүтэй өөрийн үнэт зүйлсэд суурилсан зан үйлийг эрхэмлэх нь нэр хүндийг дагаад өсгөх болно. Эрик Поттерат өөрийн баримталдаг зарчмуудыг тодорхойлсон 10 үгийг амьдралын чухал шийдвэр гаргахдаа ашигладаг бөгөөд үүнийг үйлчлүүлэгчиддээ ч зөвлөдөг байна.
Сэтгэлгээний хандлагаа дадлагажуулах гол арга нь өөрийн хяналтад байдаг зүйлсэд анхаарлаа төвлөрүүлэх явдал юм. Хүн зөвхөн өөрийн хандлага, гаргаж буй хүчин чармайлт, үйлдэл буюу зан төлөв гэсэн гурван зүйлийг л бүрэн хянах боломжтой. Эдгээр гурван хүчин зүйлийг нэгэн зэрэг идэвхтэй ашиглах нь хүссэн сэтгэлгээгээ амьдралд хэрэгжүүлэх түлхүүр болдог.
Хандлагаа удирдахын тулд сөрөг бодлуудаа анзаарч, тэдгээрийг эерэг, батламжилсан мэдэгдлээр солих хэрэгтэй. Өөртэйгөө ярилцахдаа шүүмжлэгч бус дасгалжуулагчийн байр сууринаас хандаж, өөрийгөө гуравдагч этгээдийн нүдээр харах нь бодит байдлыг дүгнэх орон зайг үүсгэдэг. Хүчин чармайлтын хувьд хүн бүр өөрийн гэсэн хязгаартай байдаг тул санаа зорилго, бодит үйлдэл хоёрын хоорондох зөрүүг таньж, түүнийг гүүрлэн даван туулах сонголтыг хийх нь чухал.
Эцэст нь, зан төлөв гэдэг нь бидний сэтгэлгээний илрэл бөгөөд үүнийг зөв дадал хэвшил болгон хувиргах хэрэгтэй. Амьдрал төлөвлөснөөр болохгүй үед хэрхэн хариу үйлдэл үзүүлэх нь тухайн хүнийг тодорхойлдог. Түүхч Уилл Дюрантын хэлснээр, бидний давтан хийдэг зүйлс л биднийг бүтээдэг тул амжилт гэдэг нь нэг удаагийн үйлдэл бус, харин дадал хэвшил юм.
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EXCELLENCE is a mindset. The right mindset is what differentiates top performers from others. A mindset is simply the way you approach the circumstances you are faced with. It is a chosen approach to life that either propels you forward or leaves you drifting. Your mindset is a choice. Choose wisely.
In Learned Excellence, Eric Potterat and Alan Eagle say that “learning excellence starts with developing a deeper understanding of ourselves: how we act, why we act that way, and what drives us.” In other words, our identity. Too often we worry too much about what people think of us, and it affects our performance. Our focus should be on our identity—what we value—and our reputation will take care of itself. Behave from our values, not our reputation.
Eric defines his personal identity with ten words: wonder, stay hungry, stay humble, stay connected, loyalty, listen, laugh. He adds, “I have used it to guide every important decision of my life, and I counsel my clients to do the same.”
Our identity defines our mindset. But how do you practice the mindset you’ve chosen?
My answer: the controllables. Among all the top performers I have worked with or interviewed, the ones at the top will talk about controlling what they can control and not worrying about the rest. This is a skill that is difficult to master, but in my experience, it is through the controllables that one can best evolve into and practice a mindset.
What can you control?
There is attitude: the way you think about a thing or person. There is effort: how hard you work. And there is behavior: the actions you take. That’s it, that’s all you can control: your attitude, your effort, and your behavior. The rest, ignore. To live your mindset, you need to activate it through all three controllables simultaneously; two or one out of three won’t cut it.
Get good at controlling the controllables and ignoring the rest. Easier said than done at times.
Eric’s advice is to stay in the circle—what you can control—attitude, effort, and behavior. Everything else—what you can’t control—is outside the circle.
Attitude:
It is easy to focus on the negative. “The best way to practice the first controllable—attitude—is to manage your self-talk. As you go through your day and encounter various challenges (the conversation that doesn’t go your way, the failed opportunity for that glib one-liner, the little mistakes of life), observe what you tell yourself about yourself. Filter out your chatter about others (That jerk just cut in line!) and notice your chatter about yourself (How could I let him do that? That’s just like me, being too nice.) When you talk to yourself, are you a critic or a coach?”
Flip that negative self-talk to positive and affirming statements about your circumstance. Observe like a friend would and speak in second person. For example, not “I am…” but “You are…”to distance yourself and create the space for an objective look.
Effort:
You have to put in the work to succeed.
Effort is perhaps both the easiest and hardest aspect of mindset to practice. Easy because you know what needs to be done: more practicing, more studying, more exercising, more time. Hard because: more work! For some people (and many high performers), hard work is innate. They keep at it naturally; they don’t have to make themselves do it. But most of us are what I like to call ‘human’: we have a limit. When we reach that fork in our day when we could spend an hour practicing that thing we care about or rot our brains watching viral videos or reality shows, too often we opt for the videos. We’ll practice tomorrow. We suffer from (or benefit from, depending on whether you are sitting comfortably on your couch or not) an intention-behavior gap. We intend to do something, but we don’t do it.
Recognize when the intention-behavior gap—the knowing-doing gap—surfaces and make the choice to bridge it.
Behavior:
Behavior is our mindset manifested in our actions. Behavior reflects what we really think about ourselves and the world around us.
Create habits that embody your chosen mindset. Think about the mindset, observe people who exhibit it, and practice the things they do that help them live it. How you express yourself, both internally and to others, is a powerful way to practice mindset. Notice and avoid using language that does not embody your chosen mindset.
Life will not go as planned, and when it doesn’t, how you react to it will define you. Excellence is about how you respond to life. No one is born excellent; it is something you learn. And constructive feedback from people who have our best interests in mind is critical to that learning process.
American historian, writer, and philosopher Will Durant wrote, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Make it yours. Learning excellence starts now.
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